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  1. Carrying wipes is such a small inconvenience to help keep other kids safe. Nobody is asking you non allergy parents to be 100% responsible for keeping our kids safe…believe me we spend days and nights planning out things to keep them safe such as packing safe food and writing allergy plans. If one small thing like using wipes would help save a child’s life why not do it?

  2. Great post Sharon!

    In response to Bob:

    My daughter with severe food allergies joined Girl Scouts in Kindergarten. Changes were made to include her, but those changes were minor, and included things like making sure the shared snack did not contain her most severe allergen, hand washing, teaching first aid skills, and table wiping.

    I think that allowing kids with disabilities to be a part of Scouts is a great way to teach many of it’s principals such as first aid skills, citizenship skills, and leadership skills, as well as being a great way to teach Scouts how to be trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, brave, and clean.

    Having a life threatening allergy can limit some things in a child’s life, but with a little kindness, friendship, courtesy, and a bit of extra cleanliness, they do not have to be left out of the Scouting experience.

    I hope that your experience in welcoming this child into your Cub Scout pack will be a positive one for all involved. With severe food allergies on the rise today, learning to “Be Prepared” when it comes to food allergies will be important through college, and into the workplace. With the rate that food allergies are increasing, they may even be a part of your own family life someday. Wouldn’t you want your child, or grandchild to be included in Scouts?

    In response to Joe:

    Sharon does not seem to be advocating a ban on any foods. It seems to me that her solution would fit right into the Scout Motto of “Be Prepared”. Be prepared to help yourself in case of a serious allergic reaction, and be prepared to help others by knowing the signs of anaphylaxis as it is a growing health issue especially within the pediatric population.

    Thanks Sharon!

  3. Bob, I agree with you when you say ENOUGH! Enough of the sugar coated politeness! Enough of the lies and denials told to our society that GMO’s and Pesticides are not causing life threatening diseases and allergic reactions in humans. Enough of cold hearted people who think only of themselves and their own bottom line. Yes Bob, ENOUGH! It is only a matter of time until your family will be affected also. All of us will be!
    I am Chandlers Grandmother, I do not care whether I am polite to someone who is cold hearted, and thinks only of themselves, I will fight for these kids and will fight people like you and others who have not a clue and do not care about others, only yourself. Because Bob, someone HAS to care and find out WHY! Why are deadly allergies up 50%, why are animals and humans dropping dead, how long before we all have something like this! How long Bob before your kidneys fail, or your kids are told they have it too! Wake up Bob!

    1. Dear Judy, my deepest condolences to you and your family. Chandler’s story and last moments are so tragic and please know that the entire food allergy community stands behind your family as well as all the other families who mourn the loss of their loved ones. Please let me know how I can ever help your family. ~Sharon

    2. Judy, my grandmother heart breaks for you. You are living the nightmare I am so very much afraid of. We have an 11 year old granddaughter, FA nuts, treenuts, sesame. Not a day goes by that I do not worry for her life – her life – her life. That is not a typo. Her life. I know you know what I mean by that statement. Chandler’s story is one that needs to be told – it needs to be shouted from the rooftops. Those who do not travel the path of food allergies must, at the very least, realize that food allergies mean so much more than hives or itchy eyes. They must understand that food allergies are killing children and young adults. We who are in this secret club that we did not ask to join and who are paying dues that include losing a loved one to anaphylactic shock must continue to fight for their lives. We must tell their stories over and over and over again. We must never stop telling their stories even when we feel we are not being heard. When I encounter someone like Bob who posted earlier my first reaction is anger; my second reaction is sympathy because being such a non-empathetic person must be difficult; my third reaction is to stop them short by asking them how they might feel witnessing a loved one experience anaphylactic shock. I would then describe it to them in great detail. You are very much in my thoughts and prayers, Judy. God Bless you today and all days ~

  4. Bob- you consider it unfair to the other scouts that they have to wipe their hands and can’t eat peanuts when they are around a child who has a life threatening allergy? Is it that big of a sacrifice to show a little empathy and consideration for a child with a life threatening allergy?
    Omg- you carry hand wipes ALL THE TIME???? Dear God, the humanity!!! I can’t believe this child with a who has no control over this disease has the audacity to ask his fellow scouts to help keep him safe, help keep him ALIVE by carrying handwipes!!! How can the other scouts even cope with such a daunting task? And I imagine not being able to eat peanut products at scout events is pretty close to a major violation of their civil rights… and yes, I see how it changes everything you do, EVERYTHING the scouts stand for!
    I am so glad, that YOU, Bob, are helping raise a new generation of scouts and helping them practice AKELA… you know: helping the Pack go, helping the Scout grow AND practicing GOOD WILL.
    When your son and the rest of his awesome pack made their Scout Promise to do their duty to God and Country, TO HELP OTHER PEOPLE, and Obey the Law of the Pack… I’m sure they truly meant it, UNLESS the child has a life threatening disease, right?
    Way to go, BOB! You are a shining example of everything the Scouts stand for…

  5. So what’s your solution? No one ever eats peanuts or dairy?

    Calling three deaths, while all amazingly tragic to their families, an epidemic is not only factually inaccurate but demonstrates an inability to objectively examine what happen and what can be done about it.

    It’s very sad that these People died, very very sad. But it’s not anyone’s fault. Unless you want to blame god.

    1. Joe,
      I sat here for a little while reading your question. By the way, I am Joseph DeNicola’s mom.

      So to answer your first question. Tell me if I am miscommunication your intent, your first questions is what is the answer. What are we to do to save a life. Correct. I always tell other parents that is the most important value we all can agree on, keeping everyone out of harm and having a great time and creating memories. Alot of parents that I grew up with, could not understand how my son was allergic, they had not been educated since it does not effect their day to day other than when they are will a group. A group, that might have food allergies, or heart problem or kidney issue or even the matter of temperament with dealing with this all in a large group setting is so hard on everyone. But it would be more so, if I knew I did something that might of harmed a child.

      Now relating to your comment about related deaths you might want to go back to the article and click on the link “read about people whom have gone to soon” now sit and scroll down to the bottom, if you can take the time, since you have asked your questions and I am taking my time to answer them.

      Again, your question is three deaths firstly, Joe, what is the value on your life. Would you trade places with my son.Lets talk facts now. You stated that deaths demonstrate an inability to objectively examine what happened? Well, Joe… The fact is my son died due to his allergen. It was and is the cause of death, by fact. See we value life, so we decided to give all the miracles that had been praying for us to still have him safe. We gave that gift by donating. I by fact had been told, the cause of death Joe.

      Again your asked what can be done about it. Being able to understand what is happening to all of us, basically. Maybe have a great conversation of what you can do, to help. Not sure what you do for a living, but I believe you posted here since you have interest overall. I thank you for your concern by asking that question twice. We take precaution, we value lives. See that is what our children have learned and those values. Each day they have to depend on others to an extend, but we have resource to help along the way, but it only takes that one time, or that grease from the pizza that Joseph came in contact with and rubbed his face or mouth or eyes, see Joe, that is all it took Joe was that sever. We included him to no limit and everyone working to respect him, do you know why? Once you met him, your face just smiled.. He never harmed anyone, was a very gentle child, valued everything from the Milkyway to the earth to the animals around him, see he taught us alot, in only seven years. You know that feeling you get around some people that you just smile.. I am not saying that just because I am his mother… again that is a FACT.. lol.. 🙂

      Yes it is very sad, that my son can no longer be here. I wake up each day and attempt to find a reason he was born with this illness, it was not anyone’s fault. You know the only answer that I can come up with. We had been blessed. We had been blessed that he taught us the values of others by his illness. I do believe he was blessed. He lived, for a purpose, each of us do, now I am attempting to face each day myself.. but I realized during the last few days I had left holding his little hand feeling his heart beat for the last time, he was a gift from GOD.. We where blessed, because he made the decision, through it all .. it was clear and felt.

      Blessing and love to you..
      Julianne DeNicola – Joseph’s Mommy…

  6. In sorry for those impacted, but at what point is everyone going to say “enough!” Maybe your kid can’t participate in everything, all the time. All of the stories above involve people who may or may not have been exposed- I’m sorry but you have to take more responsibility if you are impacted by severe allergies and not rely solely on people surrounding you to comply. Our sons are members of a Cub Scout pack with over 150 kids and 120 families. We just got a new boy this Fall who has a peanut allergy- now we must change everything we do AND carry hand wipes to protect against this boy being exposed- all the time. Is that fair to the other boys? I agree with providing labeling and other measures- like allergy free areas In school, but there have to be limits…

    1. I hear what you’re saying Bob, and it’s true- we can’t solely rely on those around us to be thoughtful and understanding of our children’s food allergies 100% of the time, and as a parent of a child with several life threatening food allergies I can assure you that we all understand that as we live it day by day. However, at the rate of food allergies increasing exponentially over the past decade, we have a responsibility as parents to teach our children how to be compassionate and caring to others with food allergies, as this is something they will surely encounter for the rest of their lives through friends, classmates and future co-workers. Instead of being annoyed or feeling put out by the Cub Scout pack having to make changes to accommodate a child with a peanut allergy, turn this scenario into a teaching moment for your sons and their friends that the changes being made could potentially save a child’s life.

    2. I find it truly baffling that your comment on a post about three children who have lost their lives is about how hard it is for you now that you have to use hand wipes and not serve peanuts at scout activities! Are you serious? Think about what these families are going through!

      And trust us – ALL food allergy families are NOT in any way relying on the rest of the world to keep our children safe. Clearly we can’t do that, even if we wanted to, as the world is full of people utterly lacking in compassion for their fellow human beings, including children – so we certainly cannot rely on anyone else and we don’t. This is a life we live 24-7, every minute of every single day and we cannot make a mistake EVER. All we ask is once in a while for people to try to do some small thing that helps make life a little bit less terrifying.

      I truly hope that young scout finds a different more compassionate troop to join.

  7. Sharon, thank you for this blog post!
    Sharing this blog post with our school and/or church communities . . . with our extended families . . . with our own children is a great place to start! Those of us with tween / teens and young adults with LTFA need to try everything to impress upon them best practices for management and how to learn from allergy-related experiences — their own and others’. My heart breaks for these families and others who have lost a loved one to anaphylaxis. It is no joking matter.